Mid-Month Shorty #1
A dip into the quantum field, and friends who slap you in the face
You’re reading the new mid monthly Soft & Strong update. This one’s a shorty where I share 2 new insights or experiences on my personal journey to embracing softness as a superpower.
#1 The quantum field
I enter the arena in Basel, Zwitserland, along with 8.100 other people from 80 different nationalities and feel my heart pumping at the anticipation of transformation in the air. Ever been to one of those events that you know are about to shift your perspective so drastically that there is no way back to the way you looked at yourself or the world before? This Joe Dispenza retreat was such an event. For 2.5 days we learned about the magical inner workings of our brain, how to let go of our own conditioning, as we danced and meditated, raising the energy of that place to new dimensions with 8.100 people present. What can I say? It became crystal clear to me that I’ve been focusing my energy too much on my external environment, using work, society, capitalism, my body, family patterns and my partner to justify my own behaviours. Turns out, stepping into my softness and power is simply a choice…
With a group of 5 friends I now committed to a daily meditation practice for at least the next 8 weeks, taking my power back from my environment and changing my energy in order to change my reality. I’ll let you know what’ll happen ;-)
Curious? Here's one of his most popular meditations (free) to try. More on the mission here.
#2 A friend slap
Last week I was staying with a dear friend who I hadn't seen in a while. The kind of friend where you can let your guard down, exhale, and be your total self with. The kind of friend that doesn't let you hide behind your own bullshit, and you know it.
It was one of those glorious sunny sunday mornings as we jumped onto our bikes to treat ourselves to a big breakfast. I ordered a black tea and eggs and was ready to lean back into my lush soft chair and indulge my friend in one of those stories I love to tell myself. Hoping to analyse it to the tiniest juicy detail and hear the comforting words come out of her mouth at the end of it: "Yes, that's tough indeed Val, and you didn't do anything wrong." What I got instead was a slap in the face!! A slap of gentle truth that my body was clearly resonating with telling by the hollow feeling in my stomach and the sweat accumulating under my armpits. Of course my mind was busy justifying my behaviour and trying to prove her wrong, but I didn’t. When a woman reflects me not based on her own beliefs or emotions, but from a place of owned truth and feminity, it's the softest, most nourishing truth, and a true gift. The kind of truth that holds a before and after. The kind of truth you cannot unhear. In fact it’s nothing you didn’t already know, but somehow you needed to hear it by a voice outside of yourself. Thanks friend 😬. What truth do you need to hear?
Happy weekend! Love, Valerie
Soft is the new strong ✌️